A Simple Approach to Complex Relationships Reveals Different Results

It is often said that the workplace is like a battlefield. But coworkers are not comrades in arms, who dares to give their backs to their coworkers? However, most people in the workplace with coworkers in the time far more than with their families in the face of such a situation, if the interpersonal relationship is not handled well, there will be a certain impact on life.

Some people say: life is life, work is work and the two should be distinguished. Indeed, this theory is not a problem, but who can really emotionally really completely unaffected?

For example, today the leadership to talk to you, to promote you, go home the mood must be good, but if they are removed from the job, then go home the mood must also be affected. In fact, compared to the work of the problem, the problem of interpersonal communication is to let a person have a kind of suffocating feeling, like the back of the itch, but they can not reach the feeling.

Adults in the world, interpersonal relationships is actually a very most energy-consuming thing, many people in interpersonal relationships consume too much valuable time, the end result is often contrary to their wishes.

What is the nature of the workplace?

Mixed in the workplace for many years, and finally realized that the nature of the workplace is the surface is justice, the heart is business. Almost everyone's code of conduct is to avoid harm, many times not colleagues "pit" you, but for self-preservation, like the superiors have set the tone, others are catering to, and you have to insist on their own views, then you will become a target, even if you are right.

Those who insist on their own views, and ultimately be rewarded by the leadership, recognized by the boss of the thing, are the film and television drama. In the real world, that kind of situation is too little, at least mixed in the workplace for many years, not to mention that they have not encountered, not even heard of, may be praised at the time, may also be rewarded for this, but time will prove everything, either through your mouth whole other people, or in front of the "pit".

Tend to avoid harm is the code of conduct of all workplace, whether ordinary employees, or senior leaders, as long as you want to survive in the workplace better, it will inevitably follow this rule.

The reason why we will be those who insist on their own views in the movie and television drama, can live out the way they want to live touched, because the reality really does not allow us to live into the way we want to be determined, of course, if it is your second generation, and would like to have been in the aura of the father's generation to survive, it is natural that can be capricious, but there are capricious capital of a small number of people or a small number of people.

The nature of human interaction

The essence of human interaction is the exchange of value, and it is an exchange of value. Your own value determines what kind of people you interact with, and in the workplace, your value determines how your leaders treat you, and very often how your coworkers treat you.

Value can be any way, whether it is your business ability, technical ability, or you have a relationship, background, etc. These constitute the components of your value, if the business ability, technical and hard, family good family background, it is bound to be a winner, like the protagonist of the film and television drama, all the resources tilt in your body, want to be unsuccessful are difficult.

This is what was mentioned earlier, whether it is the leadership or subordinates, we all follow the code of conduct of avoiding harm, your value can bring profit, natural interpersonal relationships are much simpler, value is like chips in the hands of the chips in your hands determines what kind of field you enter, determines the attitude of others to you.

The so-called unfair competition is in fact entirely based on value as a standard of measurement, the value of the relationship may exceed your business capacity, just like the scales, the tilt is always heavier party. The key to interpersonal relationships is the exchange of value, and it's an equal exchange, the more value you can provide, the more you can exchange for what you need.

The lowest social cost

Interpersonal interactions have costs, time costs, material costs, and energy costs. In interpersonal interactions these costs are often consumed inordinately, or even the input costs and benefits simply don't want to match. The reason for such a situation, in fact, is very simple, because the workplace in a relatively fixed environment, and resources are also relatively fixed, you get more, others get less.

So in the investment of a lot of time cost, energy cost of these easily ignored costs, and did not meet expectations, and then began to invest in some material costs, and ultimately may receive some results, seemingly good workplace friendship, but in the real face of conflict of interest, these so-called workplace friendship will instantly disintegrate.

The lowest social cost is to make yourself valuable, so that you are needed, the use of effective time, full of energy to make yourself worthwhile, only to be needed is the key.

Just like everyone smokers can see the cigarette box written "smoking is harmful to health", but there are still people so that the bill, but if the food written on the words "harmful to health", there will be no one to pay for it, the reason is, because the tobacco knows you The reason is because tobacco knows that you can't live without it and need it, so it doesn't need to be deliberately marketed.

Similarly, with effective time, full of energy to increase their own value, so that they become more valuable, be needed by others, although not to the extent that can not be separated from the degree, at least can do to replace the time will pay more costs, then naturally the so-called interpersonal relationships, naturally, will not be poor to where.

Lastly

The most simple, the most effective interpersonal communication, is to make yourself valuable, of course, is also very important to be needed, valuable not necessarily be needed, and be needed must be valuable, like not everyone will be for the antique vase to pay, but everyone will be for the "fame and fortune" to fight forward a reason, the simplest way is often the most effective, everything! The basis of all human relationships lies in whether there is value and whether the value is needed.