Never Treat A Coworker As A Friend In The Workplace

Strictly speaking, entering the workplace is the only way to really enter the society, not only to deal with work tasks, but also to deal with all kinds of interpersonal relationships. For the workplace white, what are the need to pay attention to? From a psychological point of view, in the workplace, please keep in mind the three unspoken rules.

First, don't treat your coworkers as friends
Many newcomers in the workplace are prone to make this mistake. When they get along with colleagues who are talkative and have friendly personalities, it is easy for them to get attached to them and regard the other party as their trustworthy friends. For example, in their free time will be chatting gossip, talk about life, hate will be their own family details all out.

In fact, this practice is very dangerous, because you pursue common interests, it is difficult to establish a long-term and solid friendship. It is likely that one day in the future, your friendship is no longer, and you once complained to a colleague about the company's leadership, all of which he reported to the leadership, and they are still in the dark about it.

Why is there no friendship in the workplace? Because in the workplace, most relationships are built on the premise of mutual benefit, in line with the interpersonal communication in the (Economic Man Hypothesis). The hypothesis emphasizes that human beings are economic creatures, we always tend to maximize our own interests, and the closeness of people's relationships depends on the similarity of their positions, and we will always get potential benefits from our peers and give them back accordingly.

In the workplace, when you have a competitive relationship, this kind of mutually beneficial interaction no longer exists. The other party is likely to take what you normally share, exploit it and stab you in the dark, leaving you defenseless. Therefore, never treat your colleagues as friends in the workplace, and even if you do have personal things you want to share, don't tell them everything.

Second, there is no absolute fairness in the workplace
Many newcomers to the workplace want to be treated fairly, and they think that they will not suffer if they do their part. However, when they really enter the workplace, they will find that things are not as simple as they thought.

They may be arranged to work overtime for extra tasks, or they may encounter requests for "help" from old employees, or they may find that their colleagues who joined the company at the same time are suddenly promoted and given a pay rise, resulting in a strong sense of psychological imbalance. ......

If you always hold the pursuit of "absolute fairness" mentality to look at these things, you will only fall into a vicious circle of self-hatred, all day long sad face, but also can not play a role in the actual solution to the problem; and when you relax your mindset, understand that there is no absolute fairness in the workplace, you will not be angry, but rather conducive to you to devote yourself to their own work, and in the future get more money. Instead, it will help you to devote yourself to your work and gain more opportunities and achievements in the future.

From a psychological point of view, emotions can greatly affect the efficiency of our work. When you are in a negative mood, you do not want to do anything, but only complain about the company environment, and your own state is getting worse and worse. Mood is influenced by the gap between "self-expectation" and "reality".

But when you hope that the working environment is absolutely fair, what you actually encounter in the workplace will aggravate this "psychological gap", causing you to produce a lot of negative emotions of disgust and anger. But when you adjust your mindset to recognize that the workplace is not absolutely fair, you can effectively narrow this psychological gap and keep your emotions stable.

Third, do not go against the boss
Workplace newcomer Wang encountered such a thing: a boss told him to do a work briefing, he accessed a lot of material, seriously completed, but the boss is still not satisfied, said he did a mess. He felt he had done a better job, and the idea of arguing with his boss even flashed through his mind.

In the end, after a lot of hard thinking, he suddenly had a flash of insight to find an old colleague to ask for the boss's own work briefings, modeled after the boss's writing style and structure to improve. Finally, he achieved satisfactory results and won his boss's approval.

This story tells us that even if you think you are doing the right thing, you should make adjustments according to your leader's preferences. Although flattery is not a good culture in the workplace, your career will be smoother if you follow your leader's preferences. Social water is deep, interpersonal relationships are complex, in the workplace, please keep in mind these three unspoken rules.