I'm sorry, the number of people you know doesn't mean you have contacts!
For some professionals, having contacts is half the business success. Especially for work content with strong social attributes, contacts and resources are important factors to promote business. Therefore, many people are consciously expanding their social circle. Even people who have only met once in a while can't wait to be drawn into their circle of friends. It seems that they have a wide range of friends and can't be used one day.
For some professionals, having contacts is half the business success. Especially for work content with strong social attributes, contacts and resources are important factors to promote business. Therefore, many people are consciously expanding their social circle. Even people who have only met once in a while can't wait to be drawn into their circle of friends. It seems that they have a wide range of friends and can't be used one day.
Useless social interaction not only wastes time, but also wastes expression. Real people never pay more attention to how many friends and contacts they have around them. Some people feel complacent when they add the WeChat of an industry leader to their business occasions at work. This is the highlight of his social history. They will show off when they go back.
But in fact, the boss did a training on the same day, and 90% of the people present found him to add friends, and only because of WeChat for business cooperation, the assistant usually took care of it. Even if this is really the boss's private WeChat, you are just one of many "fans". He can't remember who added his WeChat at all. It doesn't constitute the so-called "network".
The essence of networking is the exchange of interests, especially the social interaction at work. It must be because some value points of the other party attract you, and you also have your own value, which is what the other party likes. If you think about it carefully, will you make friends with a person who looks very ordinary, whose three outlooks run counter to you and can't bring you any benefits? The so-called friendship is also generated from the exchange of values.
Will you help a stranger who has nothing to do with you for no reason? Maybe you will, but the motivation that drives you to do this is the benefit you get after helping. Don't rush to retort that you are warm-hearted and want to help when you see it. If the other person doesn't thank you or even bite you back, will you feel angry? Because you helped the other party but didn't get the feedback you expected, if you help others without asking for return, you won't be disappointed or angry because the other party didn't give positive feedback.
With the setting of "network is based on interest exchange", we also have a direction when we need to establish a network. Here are a few methods for your reference.
- Turn "help" into "exchange"
Before you need to ask others for help, take out the corresponding value you can provide. With "chips", it will be natural.
- Principle of win-win and mutual benefit
Don't always think about taking advantage of others, and sometimes let them take advantage. When others need to find you, try to help others if you can; When others don't ask for your help, they can also extend a helping hand appropriately and actively, which means that they may need your help someday. Business pays attention to "win-win", and life is the same.
- Reflect personal value
Some people are eager to establish a relationship with some unattainable "big men", not to mention for the sake of ostentatious psychology or work needs. The main purpose of establishing a relationship is only for you to know. But for the big men, you don't have their money and resources. What's the motivation for making friends with you? This is exactly the most critical issue that many people ignore. Find your own value first. What benefits you can get from making friends with you and what you can bring to them are the key. When your value is reflected, the other party will take the initiative to hook you up.
- Abandon meaningless social and invalid contacts
Attend some meaningless parties, and then spend several hours back to find nothing? In addition to killing time, worthless social circles can not bring you any benefits, and are prone to the illusion of "I have many friends".
To sum up, real good friends don't need to spend time every day to maintain their relationship carefully, but when they need each other, they will not hesitate to step forward. Such "contacts" don't need many, just a few. Don't blindly seek to expand your contacts. It's better to improve yourself and develop your own value when you have this time. Maybe "contacts" will come to you.
